Silicone Valley – the birthplace of perfect husbands

This might seem weird, but think about it. They make “dem money”, they don’t make for the best Casanova and they will never find the time to cheat on you (unless you count the fair lady named “The Internet”).

According to evolutionary psychologists, there are two most noticeable traits of an ideal husband: money and power (in both physical and economic sense). Being one of the most profitable industries of the twenty-first century, the tech industry has spit out a fair number of ridiculously wealthy people basking in the shimmering sunlight of our praise and admiration.


However, the stereotypical techie doesn’t necessarily possess the best physical abilities that would’ve otherwise made him the perfect mating material. But in the modern world of segregated labor you can typically find either a brainiac or a jock, but rarely a mix of both. And the former will almost always have a higher chance of earning a greater salary. So if they are all capable and most of them willing to provide us with the resources women need to successfully raise our offspring, why are we often so repulsed by the idea of ending up with a techie?

The general consensus is that women today want more than diamonds and flowers, they want time, attention and a hint of social awareness.

Unfortunately, evolutionary psychology claims that our poor programmers, who generally posses a type S(systematizing) brain (as opposed to an empathizing one), have none of that desired social awareness. The notion that men working in the tech industry are incapable of being the caring loving partner has been supported throughout the past few decades since the time working in tech started becoming popular. The novel Virtual Love written by Kim Malone Scott about her romantic and professional experiences working in tech is an evident example of such a negative preconceived notion of all tech guys. She describes an anecdote of her former partner (who just so happens to also work in the industry) proposing to her via Email, which leads her readers to believe that such impersonal treatment is the general rule in her line of work. Surely, these arguments seem reasonable and applicable to our current situation, right?

Wrong. I beg the readers to stop with the nonsense and check the dates on the publications that they refer to as evidence. I beg the readers to think about the economic growth of the tech industry and its expansion into other parts of our economy, into industries like medicine and food production, into businesses that require not only clever algorithms, but smart and human applications.


Things have changed. Being a successful techie is not just about the amount of time one spends behind the computer learning the ins and outs of the Internet. Being successful in the tech industry today means being entrepreneurial. It means knowing that technology is a tool that has the power to lead humans to a better world, recognizing and attacking the problems that can be solved utilizing our technical brain.

In my short two years navigating the tech community around the Bay Area, I have been lucky to meet the minds that I believe will change tomorrow. I’ve met college dropouts. I’ve met competition winners. I’ve met hackathon planners. And if there is one thing they all have in common that is incredible charisma. They also tend to live in the same house.


So no, the title of my blog is not ironic. Next time you attempt to escape a blind date, because they have just said the words: “I run a tech startup”, stop and think about how much improvement in the form of non-existent car accidents this person can offer the world and how




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